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Are We Biased? Kristen Pressner Says Yes She Is

Are We Biased? Kristen Pressner Says Yes She Is

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Today, I am sharing with my conversation with Kristen Pressner. This show is a slight departure from straight job search advice and this show may not apply directly to your job search. You’ll glean a few things, but this is to self-examine and become more self-aware of your own biases. I hope you’ll consider looking at yourself, remember we’re not navigating hiring barriers. My guest, Kristen Pressner (@KPressner), directly leads within Roche Diagnostics worldwide. She is sharing her story of how she was biased toward other women while making a business decision.

You know we’ve discussed unconscious bias several times this year. This show adds to the discussion.

I want to hear from you of how this episode resonates with you. Here are places you can add to the conversation at large:

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 More about Kristen Pressner

Last August, Kristen shared a personal reflective TEDx talk about her own bias toward women, Are You Biased? I am. As amicably and respectfully delivered as possible, it disarms any premonition of resistance you had previous to watching. I had never heard someone in her position be so vulnerable and transparent, which is part of the compelling story she shares. Although the video is eight minutes long, no matter who you are, it inspires and moves you to examine yourself, your biases, and how it affects others.

I love for you to listen to this conversation, rather than giving a longer preview to read. I would like to know what you think.

The show hiatus is coming up!

After this week, and one more show, the show will be on hiatus until September 12. I will still publish articles on the blog. If you haven’t already subscribed to my bi-weekly newsletter, please do. The fall shows collectively will be different than in the past but delivering as much if not more value than ever. One change is the shows will be bi-weekly instead of weekly for the fall. Since there are a couple of projects I will be involved with, I will need more time. There maybe a few bonus episodes and I am working on a live event here in Chicago, so if you’re in the area, look for that announcement.

About Mark Anthony Dyson

My name is Mark Anthony Dyson, and I am the Founder of The Voice of Job Seekers. I am a career advice writer, but more importantly, I hack and re-imagine the job search process.. I've worked with hundreds of job seekers one-on-one helping them to construct a narrative and strategy that appeals to hiring managers and recruiters. I present at colleges and organizations, and facilitated many workshops including my volunteer effort through a Job Lab. I write and create useful job search content on this blog and write career and workplace advice for blogs such as Glassdoor, Payscale, Job-Hunt.org, Prezi and more. Media Feature highlights: Forbes, Business Insider, NBC News, Glassdoor, LinkedIn's #GetHired, and NPR Freelance writer and content contributor: Glassdoor, Payscale, job-hunt.org, The Financial Diet, RippleMatch.com and more. Contact me to contribute career, job search, or workplace advice for your site at markanthonydyson@gmail.com.

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6 Career Regrets Realized at 40 (Let’s Give Thanks)

6 Career Regrets Realized at 40 (Let’s Give Thanks)

Not all career decisions end up being amusing stories we can tell later even if things turned out OK. We often lack foresight and insight when we’re in our early 20s. There are times our “yes” should have been “no”—and vice versa.

Setting career strategies and goals are not easy. Yes, we want to take control of our career by accepting full responsibility for our actions, creating opportunities for ourselves, and staying connected. There are those times when we put lots of food on our plate, but we won’t eat it all, and often waste the food.

Some decisions seem horrible at the time, but it was the right call. Those are the ones you may not appreciate until later, like when you’re over 40. I thought of a few, and perhaps you can spot them sooner than I did:

1. You said “no” and missed out

When you’re young, you value moving up the ladder and want the life experiences with friends. You want both, but the time you said “no” to career opportunities (or a single one) leaves you with feelings  of unrequited love. On the trip back to reality your values mean more than status, and contentment means more than confinement in a career.

It’s bittersweet but those relationships you built through your experiences were too valuable. Now you understand these relationships start the process way before any crisis.

You gain intelligence from coffee conversations, networking events, and a few informational interviews.

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Only after a few interactions your resume will take a relevant shape.

2. You were fired and afterward, your career stalled

How does it feel when you realized being “fired” was either a great new beginning or a shareable life lesson? Being “let go” was not judgment day but it felt like it. If feels as if Satan in the form of disappointment is stalking you. It took years to get over the sting. The needles and pins of pain. The cloudy and stormy feelings of shame.

Some people need help in understanding why it happened, but others discover freedom and relief quickly is what was supposed to happen. Counseling is not a bad thing, but neither is time. You lost a job for reasons not uncommon to man. If you haven’t already reframed it positively in your mind, now is the time to do so for the rest of your career.

3. You chose life over money

We were told to have fun and work very hard in our 20s. Some of us were underemployed but refused to go home because we loved our freedom. We ate Spam or Ramen noodles to survive because we decided to immerse ourselves in our lives. The sting remained for years, but we can go to that place when challenges cloud our vision.

Sometimes we gain wisdom from there, other times clarity, or novocaine. You can see the ending to your story clearer, so now you save. Even better, happiness doesn’t have the cash value it used to. Your ability to career management brings a smile and not a competitive smirk.

4. You lost track of tech and professional relationships

Certain technologies can become old-school in a short period of time.  You career path can become irrelevant as quick if you are not on top of trends in your industry. Your friends indirectly challenged you to keep up because they were moving and you knew you had to keep up.
Somewhere along the way relationships changed, priorities rearranged, and we feel we should start over again. Tech is infused with life now, so you have to catch up. It won’t take long if you work at it daily.

5. You couldn’t accept “no” from a potential employer

Rejection makes us a stronger, and boy is it painful at the time.

You spent more time over “what could have been” and less on the what you have.

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Sometimes it turned out great, and then you’re grateful for the “trail.”
Remember those who benefited from your path and the way it turned out because without you, and they are not better. Whether you just started a new job yesterday or 20 years ago, you can list 20 ways you’re valuable to your next employer. And do yourself a favor: Keep adding to the list.

6. The bad boss had value after all

We may not like the messenger and hate the way the message was delivered, but the message was on point. Sometimes our jagged little life-saving pill was brought by an ugly carrier pigeon, and we reject the message for the wrong reasons. In our late 30s or early 40s, we realize when a more acceptable package our ugly acting boss was right. We hated how the message was delivered.

Don’t worry, most of us have been there, but it would have saved us or someone else much heartache if we looked much deeper at the message. The diamond isn’t in the delivery, but in the package.

We get to a place where we realize what’s most useful, and valuable lessons are not the most recognizable at first. We may have gotten to a clearer space before 40. But the one thing we do know is upon arrival, and we appreciate the journey of our career more because the clarity is an irreplaceable part of our experience.

About Mark Anthony Dyson

My name is Mark Anthony Dyson, and I am the Founder of The Voice of Job Seekers. I am a career advice writer, but more importantly, I hack and re-imagine the job search process.. I've worked with hundreds of job seekers one-on-one helping them to construct a narrative and strategy that appeals to hiring managers and recruiters. I present at colleges and organizations, and facilitated many workshops including my volunteer effort through a Job Lab. I write and create useful job search content on this blog and write career and workplace advice for blogs such as Glassdoor, Payscale, Job-Hunt.org, Prezi and more. Media Feature highlights: Forbes, Business Insider, NBC News, Glassdoor, LinkedIn's #GetHired, and NPR Freelance writer and content contributor: Glassdoor, Payscale, job-hunt.org, The Financial Diet, RippleMatch.com and more. Contact me to contribute career, job search, or workplace advice for your site at markanthonydyson@gmail.com.

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Two Conversations Parents Must Have: The Sex and Career Talk

Two Conversations Parents Must Have: The Sex and Career Talk

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My original article was first published on the Good Men Project!

 Most of us dads jack up the sex talk and never have the career talk. That’s right. We concentrate on just talking about sex without helping them to have good sex. Or even, to perform like we’ve been there before. I mean to do all the right things to do before sex includes having the right kind of relationship, treating his partner the right way, being optimally considerate throughout. This means many things to many men, and although the means to an end is targeted towards marriage in my household, you can find multiple applications in this discussion.

Now, you’re thinking that the career talk is sending them to college or trade school, and telling them to find a job is the career talk. My argument is you couldn’t be farther from reality than our dads were with us. Today’s job search is complex, and many of the old rules don’t exist. The sex and career talk are complicated and requires an ongoing discussion with both parents whenever possible.

As the parental units, we need to stop the madness our parents passed on to us:

  1. Telling them the world is theirs, but limiting “acceptable” career choices
  2. Living our career aspirations vicariously through our children (it should be a sin)
  3. Not know their heart’s desire but only know what you want
  4. Lacking the tolerance of them changing their minds even if it’s 20 times between high school and college
  5. College is not for everybody and anybody. We can argue the worth of a college degree later. It’s not a bad idea to explore organizations to get your son career ready
  6. There’s no sin in your son to major in film school, liberal arts, or classical music majors

The career talk is as complicated as the sex talk. Although, with our son, it’s the relationship talk and both are related in this way: The better the relationship optimizes the physical engagement. Yet, as a family, we want to emphasize the results when the relationship building is the most critical. As fathers, we have an ugly assignment when talking about sex. As a teen, I grew up with my Aunt, she explained how beautiful sex is but I was so lost because I didn’t know how to get there or recognize it when I got there.

In the same spirit we need to change the dialogue about careers need to apply to the sex talk:

  1. Relationship and sex are not synonymous
  2. Sex is just an act
  3. We never talk about sex (I don’t want to know)

Hopefully, you started early with the sex talk in talking about good touches and bad touches. Why not have the talk about doing work and getting a job? In my opinion, it is an entirely different discussion than “chores.”

Careers are talked about in the same way. We’re told the world is ours, and we can be anything but we were lost in conducting a fruitful job search. It’s difficult for young people to connect to how disconnected employers are intentional with job seekers. Employers set-up this wall of security for them (not for you) called the Automated Tracking System (ATS) to filter out the unqualified human beings. Many large companies are using computers and robots to do the work for them. Relationships are the best chance to reach and engage humans:

1) Both require sustaining relationships

Relationships are required for the long path of support and renewed faith of who are? When we lose jobs, or a relationship we wonder are we the same person or have we lost our way. Assessment tests don’t read our eyes, listen to our tones, or judge our behavior. Nor can they put a reassuring hand on our shoulder, tell us it’s alright, or reignite the faith we lose. I was a slow learner when it came to relationships, obtuse in my understanding of them, but thrived when I valued them both professionally and personally.

2) Both talks keep them accountable in ways that matter most

If you are just teaching them about sex, as you are teaching how to get a job, where are you leading them? A great career as in a great relationship is a continued learning. Much of the best lessons are from failure. As a parent, you can’t protect them all of the time. You can manage his expectations through helping them value relationships. The best talks with my first son and I had with his first job were immediately when he came home from work. We focused on his working relationships, not the work incidents. This made a difference in how he has navigated his search for other opportunities.

3) Both talks deepes our relationship with our sons

Our sons will feel weird about talking about either sex or career. Once my oldest (and now my youngest son) starts to trust because of his experiences, triumphs, errors and even failure, he is more open to deepen any part of the ongoing dialogue. We need patience in order for them to absorb all we say contrary to their peers, but he will rebound and adapt parts if not all we share. If he rejects it, don’t worry, he will grow into what makes sense for them. In most cases, the bonding will infuse your world with his, which will mean much to both of you.

4) It’s the catalyst for healthy relationships and life

Since there are many definitions of what a healthy relationship looks like, there is no argument of what it means to our life experiences. It also builds a sustainable careers path and also creates depth in romance.

Getting a job, or just having sex solely for the act has a long-term low expectation of meaningful success (if that’s your definition). The sex talk these days about sustaining the right relationship, education, and respect. The career talk today is not just getting a job, but navigating and building a meaningful career throughout several opportunities, not one long stand with one company (that’s not bad, it is rare for an individual to do so).

 

 

About Mark Anthony Dyson

My name is Mark Anthony Dyson, and I am the Founder of The Voice of Job Seekers. I am a career advice writer, but more importantly, I hack and re-imagine the job search process.. I've worked with hundreds of job seekers one-on-one helping them to construct a narrative and strategy that appeals to hiring managers and recruiters. I present at colleges and organizations, and facilitated many workshops including my volunteer effort through a Job Lab. I write and create useful job search content on this blog and write career and workplace advice for blogs such as Glassdoor, Payscale, Job-Hunt.org, Prezi and more. Media Feature highlights: Forbes, Business Insider, NBC News, Glassdoor, LinkedIn's #GetHired, and NPR Freelance writer and content contributor: Glassdoor, Payscale, job-hunt.org, The Financial Diet, RippleMatch.com and more. Contact me to contribute career, job search, or workplace advice for your site at markanthonydyson@gmail.com.

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