Mark Anthony Dyson, Author at The Voice of Job Seekers

Be BRAVE! Don’t Let People Should on Your Career!

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How BRAVE are you? Are you missing the courage to find the career you want? Many job seekers or career-changers don’t need more or better marketing materials (resume, cover letters, etc.). Most of them need something he or she has already or that is intrinsically available to them. Margie Warrell (@margiewarrell) and I talked two years about courage. I am welcoming her back to the show to inspire you and talk about her book, Brave: 50 Everyday Acts of Courage to Thrive in Work, Love and Life.What does courage mean to you today? I would love to hear what you think? Here’s how you can let me know:

Call and leave a voicemail at 708-365-9822
Go to TheVoiceofJobSeekers.com, press the “Send Voicemail” button on the right side of your screen and leave a message
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Margie Warrell is an international thought leader in human potential who is passionate about empowering people to take braver risks and lead more purpose driven lives. She has been featured in leading media outlets such as The Today Show, FOX News, CNBC, Psychology Today and Wall Street Journal. She is also a regular contributor on Australia’s ABC News Breakfast and Sunrise.

Here are a few highlights from our conversation:

“Brave” speaks to our total lives, not just events. Small changes to our lives affects how we live profoundly
Think differently, act differently, with who you are
We should always challenge ourselves to expand who we are and put ourselves out there to add value—it takes courage
Courage is a muscle, it grows with use—act the way we want to feel
People react positively — Our beliefs can limit us or fuel cynicism
Stories around us being the victim will only perpetuate the current status quo
“I’m a great believer in luck, the harder I work the more I have of it”
Stop looking in a direction you don’t want to go
Obstacles, setbacks, competition are constant, find ways to break through,
Be careful in the way you explain setbacks, you can chase away potential believers
We speak our fears into existence, we build our roadblocks to success
Give our selves permission to make mistakes, or sub-optimal decisions, just make a decision. If it doesn’t work, pivot as you go along
Don’t let others “should” on you – be BRAVE! Use your good judgment

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Next week show is the last show for 2015, and is a special Christmas show I am looking forward to sharing with you! After that, January 12 is a special new show on salary and negotiation for women. All are invited to join me for that special episode!

About Mark Anthony Dyson

I am the "The Voice of Job Seekers!" I offer compassionate career and job search advice as I hack and re-imagine the job search process. You need to be "the prescription to an employer's job description." You must be solution-oriented and work in positions in companies where you are the remedy. Your job search must be a lifestyle, and your career must be in front of you constantly. You can no longer shed your aspirations at the change seasons. There are strengths you have that need constant use and development. Be sure you sign up to download my E-Book, "421 Modern Job Search Tips 2021!" You can find my career advice and work in media outlets such as Forbes, Inc., Fast Company, Harvard Business Review, Glassdoor, and many other outlets.

by Mark Anthony Dyson

Nail the Interview with Michelle Lederman

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I presented several interview experts and books in this podcast including Michelle Lederman’s last interview book for veterans, Heroes Get Hired. Her latest book focuses on reframing the limiting beliefs preventing a confident presentation and standing out. The book also details what needs to be done after the interview process.

What are your interview challenges? I would love to hear your thoughts in one of three ways:

Call and leave a voicemail at 708-365-9822
Go to TheVoiceofJobSeekers.com, press the “Send Voicemail” button on the right side of your screen and leave a message
Send email feedback to [email protected]

If you are a career professional who advise job seekers and adds feedback whether it’s advice or a differing opinion, I will include a link in future show notes and read your comments on an upcoming show. Just let me know if it’s OK with you.

Michelle Lederman is one of my favorite people and a friend of the blog. Michelle is founder of executiveessentials.org, and author of the new book, Nail The Interview Land the Job. Her book, The 11 Laws of Likability from four years ago is now a Rutgers class, and “Heroes Get Hired” is an interview book specifically for Military, military veterans, and their families. Her media credits include CBS, Fox, NPR, NY Times, Forbes & MSNBC).

Highlights from our conversation include:

Michelle said one of the common challenges to interviewing is limiting beliefs, yet most are unaware of this as a challenge and rarely talked about
Limiting beliefs are statements such as, “They are not going to let a new graduate into this position.”
One way to overcome this is to reframe the limiting messages inside of our heads
Michelle has her clients do a tracking of their inner self-talk, frequency, what do these messages say
These messages and reframing limiting beliefs reach beyond interviewing and into our lives
The feeling of judgment affects our overall limiting belief, uncomfortable, feeling awkward
“The mind drives the body, and the body drives the mind” (defensive body positions, reveals lack of confidence
Reframe by making yourself bigger (in mind and physical) broaden chest, larger hand gestures, and through adding confidence
Michelle references the Amy Cuddy TED talk about “power-posing.”
Too much practice can appear inauthentic
“Practice but do not script…” –Understand the structure in your mind as you tell stories of “How did you resolve a complaint?”
What stories highlight your strengths? Tell those stories.
Michelle offered personal stories of corporate interviews she had out of college
We talk about her section of the book on “mind games” which is much like “truth or dare.”

Two more episodes before the end of this season of the show. Dec. 16 is the last show and I’ll resume on Jan. 12 with a special Salary Negotiation show that focuses on helping WOMEN!

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Let us know what you think.

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A Negotiating Strategy for Women Only

The follow article is reprinted from the Ivy Exec blog with their permission as part of our content exchange.

Women don’t negotiate as much as men do.

Study after study shows women are less likely to push for a better salary offer. The common explanations: women lack confidence and women are socialized not to speak up. Those may be part of the problem, but there is more to it.

What if the reason is that women are correctly assessing that asking for more might actually harm them?

Women who negotiate often suffer negative consequences, a phenomenon that researchers call “social cost.” In studies in which people rated their impressions of employees who negotiate and those who don’t, and then determine who they would most wanted to work with, researchers found that people were less inclined to work with someone who has negotiated. The effect was greater for women than men, sometimes significantly so.

According to the paper, “Male evaluators penalized female candidates more than male candidates for initiating negotiations; female evaluators penalized all candidates for initiating negotiations. Perceptions of niceness and demandingness explained resistance to female negotiators.”

Interestingly, women who were negotiating for other people were evaluated more favorably than those who are advocating for themselves.

A Negotiating Strategy for Women Only

So what is the solution? One of the researchers, Hannah Riley Bowles of Harvard’s Kennedy School, advises in HBR.org that women use a “relational account” —that is, an “I and We”strategy. The idea is to approach negotiations by asking for what you want while also showing the person on the other side of the table that you are also taking their perspective. Beyond the classic win-win, the strategy is not just about both sides winning, but winning together.

The key is explaining to your negotiating counterpart why — from his point-of-view — it’s legitimate for you to be negotiating. Sheryl Sandburg, for example, has written that in her negotiations with Facebook, she legitimized her stance by reminding them that being a good negotiator would be necessary to succeeding in the role they wanted her to fill. “Show you care about your relationship,” writes Bowles. Prepare for your negotiations by scripting the conversation to highlight the importance of your relationship—how much you value it—with the person across the table.

When a woman’s reasons for negotiating were perceived as legitimate, the strategy worked to lessen negative repercussions. The same was true when she communicated concern fororganizational relationships. Using that formula “helped women both get what they wanted andmake the impression that they wanted to make,” writes Bowles.

Interestingly, negotiating using an outside job offer was not as successful; perhaps because it defeated the “we” aspect of the strategy that emphasizes an ongoing relationship. It’s hard to convince someone to give you a raise when you have one foot out the door.

About the Author

Susan Price has been writing about careers, entrepreneurs and personal finance for more than a decade. She’s been an editor at BusinessWeek, Money, and iVillage.com, among others.