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How to Shut Down Daily Workplace Sexism From Sexists

How to Shut Down Daily Workplace Sexism From Sexists

Editor’s note: Beth Leslie is the editor of the Inspiring Interns blog. Her bio is at the end of this article.

In the West, women have won the right to enter the workforce en masse. They have won the right to work in industries once assumed to be the exclusive domain of men. They have won the right to set up businesses, manage conglomerates, and govern countries.

These examples from The Everyday Sexism Project illustrate the battle against workplace sexism is very much still ongoing. It is the job of all feminists – male and female – to eliminate it. The problem is that speaking out against “harmless banter” can mark you out as a killjoy or a bad team player, so people stay schtum to avoid risking their professional reputation.
It doesn’t have to be this way.

Confronting sexism while remaining irreproachable is possible.

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Here’s how to shut down sexism professionally:

Sexist Comments

Sexist comments – remarks which implicitly or explicitly demean women – are often explained away by perpetrators as “banter” or “throwaway remarks,” but help entrench offensive and damaging attitudes towards women in the workplace.

How you deal with sexist comments depends on your relationship with the offending party, you’re standing in your organization and your confrontation level. As an absolute minimum, you should refrain from positively engaging with the comment. Do not laugh at sexist jokes, or just carry on the conversation with no rebuttal. Both of these things signal that you find sexist comments inoffensive, and encourage their continuation.

Instead, look quizzical, and ask the perpetrator to repeat themselves. Keep your voice neutral – often, simply having to repeat their sexist statement will shock people into realizing how inappropriate it is. The same effect can be gained by calmly asking them why they said that or why that joke was funny.

With an unabashed perpetrator, you can point out the problematic connotations of their remark. Again, maintaining a calm demeanor is key: it makes you look reasonable and encourages them to engage with you, rather than dismissing your objections as over-sensitive.

If you have influence, pull them aside and discuss the inappropriateness of their remark. If not, ask their manager to do the same. Handle comments like any other performance issue: something they need to work on, but which they will not be harangued about if they show improvement.

Sexual Harassment

Workplace sexual harassment happens when an employee or employer directs frequent, unwelcome sexualized behavior towards one or more of their co-workers. It is one of the most serious types of workplace sexism, and it is also depressingly common: half of UK women have experienced it.

However, workplace sexual harassment is illegal in both the United States and Britain, which means businesses have a strong incentive to stop it. Consequently, if you experience or witness sexual harassment, you should go straight to HR. Make sure you document everything!  Write down your recollections of events, to ensure they have the evidence they need to investigate.

When HR is unresponsive, escalate the situation externally. Lawyers, trade unions, employee support groups and employment tribunals are all suitable places to turn. With sexual harassment, the law protects you from repercussions from your employer.

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Gender Stereotyping

Every employee is sometimes asked to do odd job duties that aren’t related to their job title. But if you notice that only women are ever requested to fulfill ‘domestic’ duties like making coffee, tidying up and running errands, then that’s a problem. (Before you act, be sure that these women aren’t simply the only admins/assistants/junior staff present. It makes sense people with these job roles would be tasked with the most menial work, regardless of their gender.)

Optics are important, which means female staff should avoid doing anything that will reinforce existing biases. Senior female employees shouldn’t volunteer for gendered tasks. Deliver frequent requests from peers to perform gendered tasks with polite but firm excuses. If you can’t duck out of the responsibility – say your boss or a client asks you – ask a peer of the opposite gender to help you with it.

Calling out one-off requests as sexist is hard to prove, and should be avoided. Patterns, however, are easier to confront. When a task is repeatedly split by gender alone, calmly question it: “I notice that you always ask Jane and Prisha, and never Tom or Ahmed, to fetch the coffee. Is there a reason for that?”

The perpetrator may not even realize the implicit sexism of what they’re doing. Giving them a chance to backtrack gracefully prevents them from going on the defensive.

Gendered Assumptions

Women are more likely than ever to hold senior roles, yet being mistaken for a secretary or assistant is still a common experience. Luckily, it’s easy to confront a sexist assumption that a woman is less qualified or senior than she is: simply correct the mistaken party.

As always, the tone is important here: you shouldn’t be aggressive, but you should be firm. Laughing or forgiving the mistake suggests it’s not egregious. The person who made the assumption will undoubtedly be embarrassed, but by refusing to brush off the mistake, you’ll reduce the likelihood of them doing it again.

Sometimes, if the assumption implies aggression (e.g. you answer your male colleague’s phone, and they ask you to make an appointment in his diary) then your challenge needs to be a little softer, to give the asker the benefit of the doubt. Think: “That sounds like something you’d need to talk to his secretary about, so I’m afraid I can’t help you.”

Men who are assigned clients who refuse to work with qualified female employees can also do their part. If asked, pretend that you’re not sure and you need to check with your better-qualified female colleague. You’ll combat the client’s prejudices without being rude to them – and show your female counterparts that you value their contribution.

Bio:

Beth Leslie is a career and lifestyle writer. She is also the editor of the Inspiring Interns blog, which provides graduate careers advice to young people looking to excel in the workplace. Inspiring Interns is a recruitment agency which specializes in matching candidates to their dream graduate job.

 

About Mark Anthony Dyson

My name is Mark Anthony Dyson, and I am the Founder of The Voice of Job Seekers. I am a career advice writer, but more importantly, I hack and re-imagine the job search process.. I've worked with hundreds of job seekers one-on-one helping them to construct a narrative and strategy that appeals to hiring managers and recruiters. I present at colleges and organizations, and facilitated many workshops including my volunteer effort through a Job Lab. I write and create useful job search content on this blog and write career and workplace advice for blogs such as Glassdoor, Payscale, Job-Hunt.org, Prezi and more. Media Feature highlights: Forbes, Business Insider, NBC News, Glassdoor, LinkedIn's #GetHired, and NPR Freelance writer and content contributor: Glassdoor, Payscale, job-hunt.org, The Financial Diet, RippleMatch.com and more. Contact me to contribute career, job search, or workplace advice for your site at markanthonydyson@gmail.com.

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A Negotiating Strategy for Women Only

The follow article is reprinted from the  Ivy Exec  blog with their permission as part of our content exchange. 

Women don’t negotiate as much as men do.

Study after study shows women are less likely to push for a better salary offer. The common explanations: women lack confidence and women are socialized not to speak up. Those may be part of the problem, but there is more to it.

What if the reason is that women are correctly assessing that asking for more might actually harm them?

Women who negotiate often suffer negative consequences, a phenomenon that researchers call “social cost.” In studies in which people rated their impressions of employees who negotiate and those who don’t, and then determine who they would most wanted to work with, researchers found that people were less inclined to work with someone who has negotiated. The effect was greater for women than men, sometimes significantly so.

According to the paper, “Male evaluators penalized female candidates more than male candidates for initiating negotiations; female evaluators penalized all candidates for initiating negotiations. Perceptions of niceness and demandingness explained resistance to female negotiators.”

Interestingly, women who were negotiating for other people were evaluated more favorably than those who are advocating for themselves.

A Negotiating Strategy for Women Only

So what is the solution? One of the researchers, Hannah Riley Bowles of Harvard’s Kennedy School, advises in HBR.org that women use a “relational account” —that is, an “I and We”strategy. The idea is to approach negotiations by asking for what you want while also showing the person on the other side of the table that you are also taking their perspective. Beyond the classic win-win, the strategy is not just about both sides winning, but winning together.

The key is explaining to your negotiating counterpart why — from his point-of-view — it’s legitimate for you to be negotiating. Sheryl Sandburg, for example, has written that in her negotiations with Facebook, she legitimized her stance by reminding them that being a good negotiator would be necessary to succeeding in the role they wanted her to fill. “Show you care about your relationship,” writes Bowles. Prepare for your negotiations by scripting the conversation to highlight the importance of your relationship—how much you value it—with the person across the table.

When a woman’s reasons for negotiating were perceived as legitimate, the strategy worked to lessen negative repercussions. The same was true when she communicated concern fororganizational relationships. Using that formula “helped women both get what they wanted andmake the impression that they wanted to make,” writes Bowles.

Interestingly, negotiating using an outside job offer was not as successful; perhaps because it defeated the “we” aspect of the strategy that emphasizes an ongoing relationship. It’s hard to convince someone to give you a raise when you have one foot out the door.

About the Author

Susan Price has been writing about careers, entrepreneurs and personal finance for more than a decade. She’s been an editor at BusinessWeek, Money, and iVillage.com, among others.

About Mark Anthony Dyson

My name is Mark Anthony Dyson, and I am the Founder of The Voice of Job Seekers. I am a career advice writer, but more importantly, I hack and re-imagine the job search process.. I've worked with hundreds of job seekers one-on-one helping them to construct a narrative and strategy that appeals to hiring managers and recruiters. I present at colleges and organizations, and facilitated many workshops including my volunteer effort through a Job Lab. I write and create useful job search content on this blog and write career and workplace advice for blogs such as Glassdoor, Payscale, Job-Hunt.org, Prezi and more. Media Feature highlights: Forbes, Business Insider, NBC News, Glassdoor, LinkedIn's #GetHired, and NPR Freelance writer and content contributor: Glassdoor, Payscale, job-hunt.org, The Financial Diet, RippleMatch.com and more. Contact me to contribute career, job search, or workplace advice for your site at markanthonydyson@gmail.com.

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