Mark Anthony Dyson, Author at The Voice of Job Seekers

How To Really Stop Underemployment From Stealing Your Soul

How To Really Stop Underemployment From Stealing Your Soul by Mark Anthony Dyson

Underemployment sucks in a few ways. As family and friends remind you the gratefulness you ought to have a job, you feel enslaved. Sometimes, it’s torture. Other times, it’s depressing. There is no shortlist for the range of emotions you feel from day-to-day. It’s frustrating, hurtful, and downright depressing.

You used to laugh, find fun in doing extra work and fostered meaningful relationships. Now you feel like an outsider. Perhaps your peers moved up or moved on, and you’re here.

Did you take this position as a bridge job? Did it have the schedule for you to be home more with your family? Did it provide some insight into future career goals? Whatever your reason you are over it now, aren’t you?

Most of you just know you need to move on. Perhaps you can’t identify what it is you feel or why? I got you.

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Here are three signs you’re underemployed and what you can do to ease the pain:

Any bit of enthusiasm for this job has dissipated

Depressed? Maybe not, but you are not happy and finding fault and shortcomings in the real things. If people are initiating lunches, casual conversations, and after work sets less could be a sign of your lack of positivity.

TIP: Start being intentional in finding and speaking positively about people who have stood out accomplishments either business or personal. You don’t have to be the cheerleader, but try being the noticer. Not only it could change your outlook on the job, but possibly bring you positive visibility.

It is as stressful as anticipated divorce

You want to leave now, but the job search is slow for your desired industry. You have bills to pay, and it’s tough to make it through the day. Some days you just want to quit. What’s worse– you can care less about what anyone associated with that job thinks about you.

TIP: Leave work at work. Leave the problems at work. Don’t try to overcompensate for uncompleted work not done during regular hours unless you’ve committed it to a deadline.

You’re always thinking of ways to escape

You can’t stop checking the schedule daily published a month ago. Are you thinking of ways and reasons to call off? It’s stress. It’s boredom. You have the “Cheshire Grin” just like the cat from Alice and Wonderland. You call off of work with no regard for the consequences.

TIP: Time off has its proper place, but it tips off your employer you’re unhappy and looking for a job. Even worse, you are unavailable for critical assignments and projects. In most cases, you want to leave on your terms.

Are you a loyalist to everything including friends, relatives, former girlfriends/boyfriends, former teachers, and neighbors. With employers in 2017, you can’t be sentimental.

It’s time to start looking for a meaning transition to a fulfilling career. If you don’t, you’ll regret it.

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And believe me, you’ll set yourself up for a lifetime full of regrets.

About Mark Anthony Dyson

I am the "The Voice of Job Seekers!" I offer compassionate career and job search advice as I hack and re-imagine the job search process. You need to be "the prescription to an employer's job description." You must be solution-oriented and work in positions in companies where you are the remedy. Your job search must be a lifestyle, and your career must be in front of you constantly. You can no longer shed your aspirations at the change seasons. There are strengths you have that need constant use and development. Be sure you sign up to download my E-Book, "421 Modern Job Search Tips 2021!" You can find my career advice and work in media outlets such as Forbes, Inc., Fast Company, Harvard Business Review, Glassdoor, and many other outlets.

by Mark Anthony Dyson

Why Should You Make Confidence Your Essential Skill

Why Should You Make Confidence Your Essential Skill by Mark Anthony Dyson

Confidence makes a presentation powerful. It’s a legitimate job skill. Well, soft skill, but one employers desire. Any presentation for any meeting whether in a large group, or one-on-one, confidence is what employers expect.

If you brag to compensate for the lack of depth in your superficial-frosted-flake-eating-mediocre-career-pursuing-barely-quit-before-I-got-fired 30 second elevator speech, then you have my permission to NOT read the rest of this post. It’s not for you. You are probably too engorged with pride and arrogance to take anything value from this post.

Thanks to the rest of you. At least you’re interested in grasping additional confidence for the next business meeting, networking event, job interview, or meeting your fiancée’s mother for the first time. Congratulations.

Again, if you are self-indulgent in self-serving and self-pumping statements, this post will help you score.

You are probably getting call backs for commission-only sales jobs. Arrogance, ha!

The habits of confident candidates do not include bragging, boasting, or attempting to compensate for the lack of HOT credentials. The impact of your contributions says it all. No need to offer egregious adjectives, or shout lies from the mountain top.

On the contrary, less is more.

Confidence is genuine. Never fake. You can’t do both at the same time.
A confident candidate has completed their due diligence to understand what the position requires. Based on research, questions are prepared to ask tactfully, but directly to the interviewer.
Confident job candidates challenge but gently correct a potential employer who starts to make wrong assumptions solely based on the candidate’s appearance, speech, or looks. “Gently” is different than “abrupt” or “abrasive.”
An accomplished candidate speaks in $ and %, and not just in ! and ?
A hirable candidate has spent time developing his or her presentation skills. Practice and preparation was a part of the strategy.
He or she practices writing and interviewing, and become sharp and ready. Remember point #2?

The solution: Less is more. Focus more about measurements, contributions, and impact.

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How to Create Realistic Expectations During Your Job Search

Your job search needs to be dynamic, but based on realistic expectations. We envy those who make it look easy. I liken it to getting and staying married. When I met my wife, it wasn’t “love at first sight.”

Are you ready for an emotional ride of sorts? Are you willing to employ grit and grind? That’s what it will take in 2023 and beyond. There is a lot of waiting, too. This is only one part of the job search because smart and savvy job seekers understand it’s a combination of their network, timing, and a strong personal brand in concert. A big part of it is your understanding of what an employer needs. Perhaps they need you at this time.

You won’t know until you’re willing to be a little bold (which is a realistic expectation).

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Looking at how easily other job seekers get jobs can hurt your mindset. I remember watching other couples, I wanted to be them, but with the right girl. It was going to take time—so will your job search.

Is your job search network friendly? Are you prepared for incremental gains? Will you be persistent and resilient enough to remain the focus for a possible 6-9 month job search? The Bureau of Labor and Statistics says unemployment is below 5%, but people are more transient in their careers. Yes, baby boomers will work until they are 75 years old, but many people are advancing their careers by changing jobs. Right now, there are active and underemployed job seekers on the market, taking advantage of their employability by remaining employed while looking.

There won’t be an easy way to do it either. Today’s job search requires 100% engagement and a wide variety of approaches. The “click and submit” method is not nearly sufficient. I’ve heard other career professionals quote (and I have done so in the past) 80% of all jobs are posted on job boards, but I don’t think it’s true. This article from the Wall Street Journal cites it too from 2013. I do think there’s a chunk of jobs not posted, and more existing because the employer hasn’t met you. Yet.

Realistic expectations don’t come naturally. You must insert them inside your strategy. I met my wife through her best friend, who I was dating at the time. As I mentioned, it wasn’t “love at first sight” for that reason. But her best friend and I didn’t work out, yet, I wasn’t focused on pursuing my future wife.

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Along the way your perspective will be challenged in many ways:

Downtime will challenge realistic expectations.

Dating is best when you have options. So is your job search. More people are searching for new opportunities, and if your job search is your “second job,” you won’t have much downtime. It does say you need to create some, and it’s challenging. Conversely, if you are unemployed, you have too much time and should create a schedule, a to-do list, and employ a multi-level approach. This means to create long-term career plans, not just to get the job now.

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Accountability sets realistic expectations.

Expanding and cultivating your network powers your job search. It is the tool to make your efforts meaningful and holistic. Invite people who are unabashedly truthful but empathetic as part of your team. Ask them to be truthful and reward them for it.

Informational interviews (business conversations) help set realistic expectations.

Interviews with hiring managers fill in the blanks if you’re asking the right questions about the industry, the position, and the skills. When I became interested in my wife (a year removed from dating her best friend), I asked a lot of questions of our common friends. I didn’t want to come off desperate and knew they would report everything. If you go to an employer in a desperate state and ask for a job (that may not exist), you’re in the wrong mental space. Done right, it could enhance future conversations and interactions with other hiring managers, your resume, and your value. It’s intel for future conversations and real interviews unless they invite you to the party.

Continued learning will heighten realistic expectations.

Successful job candidates are perpetual learners. They find ways to add to his or her career arsenal and apply it their work, side hustles, or content. If you’re changing careers, standing out by teaching what you learned is a way to catch the eyes of recruiters or hiring managers since most people refuse to do everything that it takes. I think that was the turning point of my relationship, both of us learning and believing we’ll do what it takes.

Your spouse or partner will set realistic expectations in proper perspective.

Nothing sets reality in like the encouragement or discouragement from someone who intimately knows and depends on you. The beauty of having trust is embedded in your lives together even if they don’t understand completely what you do and how you do it. They will look at your life together and try to envision how it will look. I know many people find this the hardest, but it’s part of the part of the fabric.

Again, realistic expectations don’t happen on their own. There are pieces of the puzzle that must fit together for you to find the right employer, position, and life. After 32 years of marriage, I can tell you there is a constant reset of realistic expectations. We evolve and change as life brings us our next challenges. Your job search similarly will bring you a steady flow of caveats. You can’t do it alone. Plan to reset often.

This article was originally published at Jobs2Careers.com! (Updated)