Mark Anthony Dyson - The Voice of Job Seekers

Cheat on Your Job With Your Spouse #6: Tried and Tested

Trials are good. No, they’re great for the soul. And for our relationships with family and coworkers at our job, right?

Be thankful for trials. It tests what we know. The truth is exposed. Trials validate our authority or lack thereof.

But the work doesn’t stop there when relationships become shallow after the war has been waged . So when partnerships are broken after the battle, what did we learn? Better yet, what do we practice?

In business, we practice that trials, battles, wars, fights, and disappointments that we decide to accept each other weaknesses or not. If we accept one another’s weaknesses, then we thrive for years to come. We know the worse, and that’s alright. We can work with it because his or her weakness is my sword and shield.

In marriage, accepting weakness is a routine, but magical if you allow it. Those who see a spouses’ weakness as an opportunity to find mirth but serve anyway ultimately see only good. Weird? Yeah, I know. The more bad or in this case weakness, is good?

If I show you mine, will you show me yours…weaknesses, sins, errors? There’s enchantment. Romance. Is there more natural at the job than home?

Some of us men folk have the damsel in distress complex. We can’t stand to see a woman struggle with a weight, a grocery bag, or bending down to pick up a piece of paper. But it doesn’t mean much to help if there is no opportunity. For anything. Even if its to look at a pretty girl. She could have picked the scrap piece of paper up herself. But as men the natural inclination is to save the day. Thus, the magic.

It translates to our job but often with a lot less tolerance and patience. The energy turns to competition so there must be a winner and loser. The tie can’t go to the runner.

About Mark Anthony Dyson

I am the "The Voice of Job Seekers!" I offer compassionate career and job search advice as I hack and re-imagine the job search process. You need to be "the prescription to an employer's job description." You must be solution-oriented and work in positions in companies where you are the remedy. Your job search must be a lifestyle, and your career must be in front of you constantly. You can no longer shed your aspirations at the change seasons. There are strengths you have that need constant use and development. Be sure you sign up to download my E-Book, "421 Modern Job Search Tips 2021!" You can find my career advice and work in media outlets such as Forbes, Inc., Fast Company, Harvard Business Review, Glassdoor, and many other outlets.

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Career Services, a More Dynamic Approach (AUDIO) with David Nicola

David Nicola (@capt_careerist) is the Director of Career Services at Laurus College. He advocates for students to use social media in his or her job search. His professional passion is in Human Services with a “Whatever it takes!” attitude. His infectious enthusiasm to help job seekers is demonstrated through his tweets and other other social media updates.

We first connected on Linked In, Twitter, then Google Plus. He often shares in his updates and forums about his student activities and workshops using social media. He also shares about some of his progressive ideas to increase student engagement on campus and desires to do more. I asked him to spend a few minutes with us to share his dynamic approach and strategy to prepare students for a successful job search.

Want to know more about David Nicola, you can email him at david.nicola@lauruscollege.edu or his Twitter handle.

Here is the outline of our discussion:

We discussed his journey to his current position including his career in Human Services

David talks to us about his discovery of the usefulness of social media while conducting his own job search

He shares about his challenges in his first year as Director of Career Services at Laurus College and the unprecedented growth the college is experiencing

David also talks about the strategies used to engage the student population through workshops and classes that direct assists students in his or her job search

Please, enjoy our conversation.

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About Mark Anthony Dyson

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Cheat on Your Job With Your Spouse #5: Teamwork

Teamwork is the bullet proof shield of your marriage as it is of your career. The more you function as a race car or a horse carriage wagon your life quality is optimized.

It comes at a price. You. Forget about you (most of the time). It has to be intention. It has yet to occur by accident for sustained periods of time. There’s strategy. It must be in your soul.

You must place others needs before your own first before tending to yourself. It will cost you. It will seem exhausting. The rewards are never-ending, and neither will the thanks you will get years down the line.

I’d like to suggest 5 ways to work as a team with your Spouse and coworkers:

1) Look for opportunities to exceed the expectations to give without being thanked adequately or at all. People are drawn to it and the people who like you will reciprocate…at their pace. But don’t expect them to announce your name, praise you, and talk about you incessantly.

It’s more likely your spouse will respond to this level of unselfishness through the years, but not always at first. You are in a great space when you are competing to out serve the other. It’s hard to sustain it, but it’s heavenly when you’re in the moment. It’s great if coworkers immerse in this dynamic.

2) Extend your servitude to friends and family. My wife is thrilled when I initiate helping her parents or siblings, and at times, will fore go her needs to be sure the extended family is taken care of first.

Surprisingly, your coworkers may have partners that benefit from the trickle down effect too. This extends your value and could be useful to you down the line.

3) Find value in teamwork when it’s hard

People in general are not thankful when he or she only thinks of self. It’s worse when people what to take advantage of you. This is where you hit the brakes and have conversations with ungrateful people why you do what you do. Listen to them for truth.

You must do your job or fulfill your responsibilities completely for this suggestion to work.

4) Be honest, straightforward, and tactful

People will be hurt by the content of what you say, but said tactfully starts the healing. If you’re saving a life at that point, tact is an option. Spouses can build a very healthy relationship through truth, even if it crushes them. The proverb, “A gentle word can break a bone…” is still relevant.

The other side is that if you hold back the truth there will be damage, and at times, irreparable. At work, coworkers label peers as critiques and negative because they are honest frequently and lack tact. Good managers will help them deliver their opinions in a more thoughtful manner. Apathetic managers lack listening skills to see what they are saying has validity.

5) Respect and gratitude without hesitation

I don’t see anything positive or appropriate about disrespect. Not in marriage or managing a subordinate. What’s worse is disrespect expressed publicly to another person? Probably castration, but they are relatively equal, aren’t they?

No matter the sacrifice there’s the gratitude that needs to be expressed after victory. And we do it again the next day, hour, or minute as if we learned something new.

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