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Job Search Success: Why Say NO!

Long time ago I wrote that NO! needs to be a part of a job seeker’s vocabulary. Your job search needs NO! to give it life right now. I’m continuing this discussion that Sassy HR Girl started a while ago. Stop being a desperate YES! job seeker!

I am glad it’s still relevant. It must be intentional. It must have authority. You Inc., the job seeker,is the only one who can establish what it means, and deliver it strongly!
There are far too many regrets YES! has triggered in missed opportunities. YES! has also corrupted your judgment. Too many options are harmful, but no focus is regrettable. You can’t find a job without a target. You’ll hit anything and perhaps everything that keeps you unemployed and unhappy.

That’s not good.

YES! to wrong opportunities, conversations, and gatherings are a time suck! It’s an illusion. It’s a place that you don’t want to exist or become a participant.

NO! is a smart person’s filter. The screen is there to deter all random requests for availability. The screen helps you and I discern ingenuine offers, creepy salesman, and Aflac. If you know what I mean. YES! should be sparingly used and at times, to get in front of the line. Like when you get the call for a second interview with a company you like.

NO! is like American Express. You rarely use it because you know you have to pay the whole bill at the end of the month. YES! is the debit card. You wish you’d use it less, but you don’t because it seems easier than cash. Debit cards lack filters. It’s easier to misjudge.

It exploits your lack of control

Use NO! to shrink your expenditures. Especially the egregious and frivolous cash sucking cries you can live without. You don’t want to go after non sensical opportunities just for the money to pay for YES!

Say NO! to inane networking contacts on any social network where you are using to make meaningful employment contacts. Saying YES! to them lowers your resistance for foolishness.
Ever tried negotiating with YES!? It’s a dance. It’s provocative. It also ensures failure. It’s temporary. It’s a shooting star. Once you have exhausted YES! to dance all night, then it forces NO! When you can’t have either, then who will kiss you on the cheek, “Goodnight?” MAYBE?

It’s better to say YES! or NO! At least you’ll know where you stand. MAYBE? is the lover that cheats on you and keeps you yearning for more, and you don’t know why?

Your job search efforts on all fronts yield catastrophic results is you keep applying and chasing after jobs that do not win your heart. It’s lust because it’s instant gratification or low hanging fruit, but since your NO! colored glasses weren’t on, it was on pretty on the outside. Wait to a few months go by in that job that compromised your ambition and career goals. The kiss of honesty is a peck on the cheek, and it’s no longer honest.

This is how not to get sucked into YES! mode:

Get financial counseling and look for ways lower your expenses. The more wealth you create now will help you apply sound judgment later in scenarios like negotiations, picking opportunities, and how you position yourself as a candidate.

Advisors. More than two people who are successful and regularly practice sound career judgment who offers logical advice.

A solid plan of the values you require of an employer. If everyone works 60+ hours weekly, rest assured, you will too. Is that what you want? No. Then plan to say NO!

If it’s too fast…then use NO! as a filter. You should look for the win-win and so should a potential employer. Anything less than that will corrupt a successful job search.

I’m sure you can think of others. Share it with us in the comments.

About Mark Anthony Dyson

I am the "The Voice of Job Seekers!" I offer compassionate career and job search advice as I hack and re-imagine the job search process. You need to be "the prescription to an employer's job description." You must be solution-oriented and work in positions in companies where you are the remedy. Your job search must be a lifestyle, and your career must be in front of you constantly. You can no longer shed your aspirations at the change seasons. There are strengths you have that need constant use and development. Be sure you sign up to download my E-Book, "421 Modern Job Search Tips 2021!" You can find my career advice and work in media outlets such as Forbes, Inc., Fast Company, Harvard Business Review, Glassdoor, and many other outlets.

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Job Search Tips for the Unemployed

Editor’s note: The guest writer today is Katie Niekrash of The Execu|Search Group (@ExecuSearch). Her bio is at the end of the article.

Lengthy unemployment can feel like you’re drifting in purgatory during a job search. You send out your resume, follow leads, but ultimately, hear nothing back. It leaves you feeling disconnected, alienated, irrelevant, and depressed.

When pulling yourself out of an unemployment slump remember the feelings of bleakness are normal. Your job is a huge part of your life; acknowledge your loss and give yourself time to grieve.

No one gets hired by moping. It’s absolutely essential that you build up your shattered confidence during your job search. We’ve compiled some tips specifically for job seekers who’ve been out of the workforce for six months or longer. While these tips apply to anyone looking for a job, they are absolutely essential if you haven’t been employed recently.

1. Stay positive—and avoid surrounding yourself with people who aren’t. Unemployment can ravage your self-confidence. However, the most sincere kind of confidence comes from within—not from validation by others. This breed of self-empowerment is perceptible to others and can work wonders for you in a job interview. Instead of thinking about what you could have done differently to keep your old job, set your sights on the future and what you can do now to make your next job a reality. If you feel like someone around you is sapping your energy, tune out their negativity—remember, where praise is positive, criticism is reductive, always leaving you with less than what you started with.

2. Know what you can offer. Sit down and make a list of your talents, skills, accomplishments, and achievements you’re proud of. Then read them over, think back to the specific details, and consider the reach of each item. What do they reveal about who you are as a person and as an employee? Spending some time this list will boost your confidence and provide you with ready responses during a job interview.

3. Network—and not just over the internet. Instead of sitting at home and applying for jobs, make “warm contacts.” Instead of sending your resume off into the oblivion of the internet, attend industry events and join groups relevant to your career path. Start talking. Make connections. Once you’ve developed a rapport with someone, it’s easier for them to understand your current situation and look past unemployment when referring you for a job.

4. Don’t oversell yourself. When networking or interviewing, don’t overcompensate for your employment status by acting arrogant. It will irritate the person you’re speaking to, and it’s transparent. Be cool and collected, not cocky. Instead of talking about all the things that you can achieve on your own if given the opportunity, take a more team-oriented approach—how do your skills mesh with those of current employees? What interests you about the position and the company beyond salary? What goals can you imagine achieving together?

5. Consider temporary or contractual employment. Today’s amount of employers hiring temporary, part-time, or temporary-to-full time employees has reached a 6 year high. Take advantage of this hiring rate by perusing the temporary/consulting opportunities available in your industry. Temporary roles can keep you busy, help you learn new skills in a relatively short amount of time, lead to on-the-job networking, give you the opportunity to build long-term connections with like-minded professionals, and could potentially lead to full-time or permanent employment.

6. Write and rehearse your elevator pitch. Lots of interviewers begin by asking, “What can you tell me about yourself?” An elevator pitch provides a streamlined answer that highlights your skills, what you can offer, and what kind of problems you can resolve—all in less than a minute. The best thing about an elevator pitch is you can use it in a myriad of situations. Having a prepared pitch on hand allows you to make a stellar impression in any set of circumstances.

7. Maintain balance in your life. Don’t spend all of your free time looking for a job during your job search—it will drive you crazy and you’ll burn out quickly. Make time to exercise, relax, and spend time with family, just like you would if you were working. Spend a fixed amount of hours each day looking for work. And don’t close up—it’s OK to rely on your friends and family to support you emotionally (and perhaps financially) through this difficult time.

While lengthy unemployment can be disheartening to say the least, a good attitude and a great work ethic can make the difference between a few months without work and indefinite unemployment. A little bit of confidence goes a long way; couple that with a lot of motivation, and it will take you even farther. For anyone who is out of work, there isn’t a moment to lose—stop thinking negatively, and start developing positive alternatives to unemployment and conduct a comprehensive job search.

As a Senior Managing Director within The Execu|Search Group‘s Healthcare division, Katie Niekrash has worked tirelessly since joining the firm in 2007. She is accredited with developing new markets for the firm and has been an active member in building the division into one of the largest of its kind in the Tri-State area.