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10 Ways Your Spouse Can Boost Your Career

10 Ways Your Spouse Can Boost Your Career

10 Ways marriage can boost your career

Marriage is a powerful relationship. Yes, I see and hear the eye-rolling, head-shaking, and let-me-check-my-Facebook-page-on-my-phone people sigh in the “I’m sick of hearing this myth” attitude. I must warn you that this post is a positive marriage post so if you need to stop reading, go ahead. But please, allow me to pontificate, because the evidence below is from personal experience and the relationships of many of my friends, and as a career practitioner. Your spouse will boost your career aspirations, goals, and accomplishments if you let him or her. I will spare you the “what doesn’t kill you” cliché, but the formula hasn’t changed. It takes two selfless, imperfect, and sacrificing individuals to make your career thrive through your spouse.

I don’t know one marriage that has lasted through the last ten years not confront serious career decisions. The surge in divorces has risen recently because couples from broken marriages waited out the great recession for a better financial situation. We will probably see the divorce rate surge past 50% in the next few years. Although job loss isn’t the sole reason for the marriage’s demise, it is often exposed the problems that do or sometimes is the last straw.

1. Your spouse will likely tell you the unfiltered truth. One of the challenges and blessings of marriage is how your spouse relays the “you’re-not-doing-it-right” message. Sometimes the rough delivery is the wake up call needed to take a second look at your approach to anything. In this case, your job search, career goals, your professional fashion attempts, and/or relationships could use a boost. Your spouse knows exactly what button to push, and sometimes, the buttons that annoy you the most are the ones that motivate you the way that moves you to action. It’s also a sign of a good partnership. Sure, there are times when the delivery of the message is painful and at times causes a little dissension. But you think about it several times when you realize that person has your best interest at heart.

2. His/her network is your network. You have twice the contacts that most wouldn’t have when you were single. For this to be truly effective, those times when you need to help family members with trivial chores or attend a school play, position it in your mind at networking or career management. Mostly, you will find yourself telling family members what you do, and the why, how, where, and when about your career. Don’t lose sight of the goal here as numbers do count, and how deep you dig into your network counts more.

3. He or she can help you rehearse conversations, interviews, or proofread. This works if your spouse does any of these as a part of their job. Proofreading is great if your husband is a writer or is doing his graduate work. Or if your wife is an editor or writes herself. But if they are neither, then it can still get you closer if he or she catches errors. Your spouse can help you with the little communication habits that turn people off or annoys them. My wife drills into me about eye contact. I think I did a good job before meeting her, but after all of these years of hearing about it, I think I’m excellent at eye contact since we’ve been together.

4. Encouragement. If you are not the main source of encouragement for your spouse, in most cases, it is not reciprocated. But if you work at it with your spouse where both of you are competitive, and encouraging to each other, it can be a powerful tool.

5. Each other’s coworkers become a significant part of your career trajectory. I have seen coworkers become part of the solution in married life. These days, coworker relationships are more constant than dating and sometimes marriage relationships. If there is a mutual liking and respect, these relationships are uncounted, but advantageous relationship.

6. Your spouse can challenge you like no one else. This is powerful motivation in a positive way in my marriage. If your relationship has the right tenor (my opinion), then no one can move you to action, lift you up, or crush you like your spouse can. If this dynamic is mutual, it is a sign of a marriage that will strengthen for years to come and experience continued career success.

7. People are positively motivated when two work as one. There is nothing more encouraging when you see couples coordinate, promote, and act on the same page. This takes a lot of communication and understanding, but if you’re not, this can be contentious. This means that your efforts together will stagnate, but on the other hand, what is revealed can be rectified if the desire is mutual.

8. When one falls, the other is there to lift you up. When a spouse is conducting a job search, it affects the two of you. All of the anxiety, nervousness, and stress is on both of you. It is not recognizable at first because it affects each person differently. This is difficult to see if you are the person who needs a job or a new job. The trap is realized when one doesn’t become what the other needs. Finding ways to serve each other during this time is balm or remedy. The power comes when spouses are trying to out serve the other. Then courage, patience, perseverance, persistence, and resilience are installed in each other as a result of lifting up one another.

9. Your Spouse Is an Expert in Your Talents. The bonus is if they can bring out the best of you. This doesn’t always transform into career attributes, but sometimes affirmation from your spouse can inject energy and synergy into your job search. This is especially helpful when job leads run dry.

10. He or she can shorten the length pain and disappointment. The job search is a roller coaster full of ups and downs, peaks and valleys, and at times depression is even harder to anticipate. Sometimes comfort is what we need, not more strategies, follow-ups, or attempts. Yes, the need to keep going is essential, but the moments of rejuvenation are needed more. From a hug to shutting out the world for an evening will work. Sometimes we need someone else to permit us to relax for a bit and take our minds away from the grind, when it’s a grind. The job search is a hilly, rocky, and muddy marathon. Any thing spouses can do to ease the pain is essential.

By no means will a combination of my suggestions will fix shortcomings such as specific skills or personal attributes needed for any profession. What it will do is help each spouse endure the challenges that are often faced in today’s complicated job search.  If you really need these things in your life, then I know where you can start: You start to become what he or she needs.

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About Mark Anthony Dyson

My name is Mark Anthony Dyson, and I am the Founder of The Voice of Job Seekers. I am a career advice writer, but more importantly, I hack and re-imagine the job search process.. I've worked with hundreds of job seekers one-on-one helping them to construct a narrative and strategy that appeals to hiring managers and recruiters. I present at colleges and organizations, and facilitated many workshops including my volunteer effort through a Job Lab. I write and create useful job search content on this blog and write career and workplace advice for blogs such as Glassdoor, Payscale, Job-Hunt.org, Prezi and more. Media Feature highlights: Forbes, Business Insider, NBC News, Glassdoor, LinkedIn's #GetHired, and NPR Freelance writer and content contributor: Glassdoor, Payscale, job-hunt.org, The Financial Diet, RippleMatch.com and more. Contact me to contribute career, job search, or workplace advice for your site at markanthonydyson@gmail.com.

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