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5 Really Misleading Career Narratives To Overcome

5 Really Misleading Career Narratives To Overcome
Career narratives from the news and hearsay can be confusing and conflicting. You should never rely on one news source, blog, or person. Career advice will vary and such blogs as this one, you must find the best information possible.
I become wary of anyone or anything near 100% of its input toward telling people what they must do to be accepted. I know some are waiting and reading for instruction.

But the importance to think critically and act independently whenever possible in acting or reacting upon hearing career advice. It’s essential to survival and success.

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The last three years have taught us everything we thought collectively about finding a job has changed.
There are so many traditional career narratives to rewrite these days. I chose these five as I’ve heard much of the bad advice given recently:
  1. Men and women must act gender appropriate in their careers

False narrative: Men were taught to be hunters, protectors, and the leaders. This narrative translated to the workplace as men assumed the lead roles in most cases. Men would be outspoken and rally the troops when necessary. Women are expected to take lesser roles.
The Rewrite: In today’s workplace, and even in the job search, men and women are expected to be active in all phases. Some of this comes from women needing to exhibit this in their personal lives through relationships and adverse circumstances. The other is leadership qualities are not gendered specific. As men, we unfairly assigned these behaviors to women. We used God, our will, and bravado to impose the lesser roles to women, none which are exclusively accurate nor customize to an individual. I am totally here for equal pay, opportunity, and treatment for women. It’s better to be an ally rather than an adversary.
Read: 5 Social Media Tools to Disrupt the Job Application Process
  1. Disagreeing is too disruptive

False narrative: To speak up and out is still viewed negatively. Only when requested, you’re expected to bring ideas to the table. It’s also a shame you’re disagreeing is perceived differently contingent on the quality of relationship to the leader, gender, and race.
The rewrite: We can argue for each situation whether the how or where we disagree appropriate or not, but we do know differences are part of the success formula. The diversity of ideas, ethnicities, gender, color and more account for the success of the most successful organizations in the world. I’ve been part of projects recently where I was told by a member of the project to let the ideas come from the project leads. The project leads, of course, encouraged feedback.

What the paradox here is disagreeing is disruptive, but disruption brings a wider and more comprehensive solutions for agreement.

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  1. Accepting traditions (especially when they work against you)

False narrative: Many articles, videos, and speeches in the last few years, suggests employer branding, appeals to companies. What is not said is as you’re a woman or a person of color your choices are not the majority’s preference. People like smooth transitions, not disruptions. If you fall into either category, you will be disruptive and a liability.
The rewrite: You must be you, no matter the cost, or find somewhere who finds you valuable. The problem is your readiness for the pushback to be you. It should be a short time, and you will experience discomfort. To avoid being labeled negative Nancy, offer solutions from the interview to appraisal time.
Listen to How Can Underemployed Job Seekers Adapt to the New Workplace
  1. Where you want to be in five years?

False narrative: When companies took care of their employees, this question would test if the incumbent would be loyal. We know companies will keep employees as long as the job lasts or the employee’s skills crossover to the next project.
The rewrite: Your career view must have agility, and look beyond the current or next opportunity. It’s possible you will need to create your next position even if it’s with another company. It’s an old question company used to ask when they wanted to see how and if you’ll be loyal. Today, no one is owed loyalty because only a few employers or job seekers value the few benefits it has. In fact, many career experts believe loyalty to a company will stifle your career for the long-term.
  1. Job Hopping is a career killer

False narrative: Having so many jobs in five years is not good. Companies will see you as unstable and won’t hire you if there are too many jobs on your resume. Job hopping undermines what you say about your talent. Right now, “The Big Stay,” where people are hunkering down for now in their current jobs, is a thing. While
The rewrite: Untrue, but it depends on the industry. College students who are career focused can have four to eleven jobs from high school to their senior year in college. Summer employment and internships don’t last long. It is necessary to have a lengthier job history before college graduation. Shorter job tenures also mean more opportunities to increase compensation and skill levels.
When tech careers such as network administration, help desk technicians, and other related jobs became hot, job hopping was expected to obtain experience and pay raises. It’s not all that new but has found new life in this economy where the skills gap is real. See what job-hopping looks like in your industry. Maybe the pros outweigh the cons for you.
I can’t help to express my concern in job seekers owning career agility for their future career trajectory. The job landscape in all industries is changing constant and requires constant pivoting. If we have learned anything from the last 8-10 years: As technology advances, the way and the amount we work drastically changes and evolves. Jobs and careers go away, and new jobs target specialization, new occupations arise, and what we learned five years ago is closer to irrelevance.

About Mark Anthony Dyson

I am the "The Voice of Job Seekers!" I offer compassionate career and job search advice as I hack and re-imagine the job search process. You need to be "the prescription to an employer's job description." You must be solution-oriented and work in positions in companies where you are the remedy. Your job search must be a lifestyle, and your career must be in front of you constantly. You can no longer shed your aspirations at the change seasons. There are strengths you have that need constant use and development. Be sure you sign up to download my E-Book, "421 Modern Job Search Tips 2021!" You can find my career advice and work in media outlets such as Forbes, Inc., Fast Company, Harvard Business Review, Glassdoor, and many other outlets.

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How To Be Informed About Your Career Regrets By 40

How To Be Informed About Your Career Regrets By 40

How to Be Informed By Your Regrets Before 40 by Mark Anthony Dyson

Not all career decisions are amusing stories we can tell later, even if things turned out OK. We often lack foresight and insight when we’re in our early 20s. Sometimes our “yes” should have been “no”—and vice versa.

Setting career strategies and goals takes work. Yes, we want to take control of our careers by accepting full responsibility for our actions, creating opportunities for ourselves, and staying connected. There are those times when we put lots of food on our plates, but we will only eat some and often waste the food.

Some decisions seemed horrible then, but it was the right call. You may only appreciate those later, like when you’re over 40. I thought of a few, and perhaps you can spot them sooner than I did:

1. You said “no” and missed out

When you’re young, you value moving up the ladder and want life experiences with friends. You want both, but saying “no” to career opportunities (or a single one) leaves you with feelings of unrequited love. On the trip back to reality, your values mean more than status, and contentment means more than confinement in a career.

It’s bittersweet, but those relationships you built through your experiences were too valuable. Now you understand these relationships start the process way before any crisis.

You gain intelligence from coffee conversations, networking events, and a few informational interviews.

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Only after a few interactions, your resume will take a relevant shape.

2. You were fired, and afterward, your career stalledHow does it feel when you realize being “fired” was either a great new beginning or a shareable life lesson? Being “let go” was not judgment day, but it felt like it. It feels as if Satan, in the form of disappointment, is stalking you. It took years to get over the sting. The needles and pins of pain. The cloudy and stormy feelings of shame.

Some people need help in understanding why it happened, but others discover freedom and relief quickly is what was supposed to happen. You lost a job for reasons not uncommon to man. If you haven’t reframed it positively, now is the time to do so for the rest of your career.

3. You chose life over money.

Our parents told us to have fun and work hard in our 20s. Some of us were underemployed but refused to go home because we loved our freedom. We ate Spam or Ramen noodles to survive because we decided to immerse ourselves in our lives. The sting remained for years, but we can go to that place when challenges cloud our vision.

Sometimes we gain wisdom from there; other times, clarity or novocaine. You can see the ending to your story clearer, so now you save. Even better, happiness used to have a different cash value. Your ability to career management brings a smile and not a competitive smirk.

4. You lost track of tech and professional relationships.

Certain technologies can become old-school in a short time. Your career path can become irrelevant quickly if you are not on top of trends in your industry. Your friends indirectly challenged you to keep up because they were moving, and you knew you had to keep up.

Somewhere along the way, relationships changed, priorities rearranged, and we feel we should start over again. Tech is infused with life now, so you have to catch up. It will take a little while if you work on it daily.

5. You couldn’t accept “no” from a potential employer.

Rejection makes us more robust, and boy, is it painful at the time.

You spent more time over “what could have been” and less on what you have.

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Sometimes it turned out great, and then you’re grateful for the “trial.”

Remember those who benefited from your path and how it turned out because they are not better without you. Whether you just started a new job yesterday or 20 years ago, you can list 20 ways you’re valuable to your next employer. And do yourself a favor: Keep adding to the list.

6. The lousy boss had value, after all.

We may not like the messenger, but the message was on point. Sometimes our jagged little life-saving pill was brought by an ugly carrier pigeon, and we reject the message for the wrong reasons. In our late 30s or early 40s, we realize when a more acceptable package our ugly acting boss was right. We hated the message and the messenger. 

Don’t worry, most of us have been there, but it would have saved us or someone else much heartache if we had looked much deeper at the message. The diamond isn’t in the delivery but in the package.

We get to where we realize what’s most useful and valuable lessons are only sometimes recognizable at first. We may have reached a more straightforward space before 40. But the one thing we do know is upon arrival. We appreciate our career journey more because clarity is an irreplaceable part of our experience.

About Mark Anthony Dyson

I am the "The Voice of Job Seekers!" I offer compassionate career and job search advice as I hack and re-imagine the job search process. You need to be "the prescription to an employer's job description." You must be solution-oriented and work in positions in companies where you are the remedy. Your job search must be a lifestyle, and your career must be in front of you constantly. You can no longer shed your aspirations at the change seasons. There are strengths you have that need constant use and development. Be sure you sign up to download my E-Book, "421 Modern Job Search Tips 2021!" You can find my career advice and work in media outlets such as Forbes, Inc., Fast Company, Harvard Business Review, Glassdoor, and many other outlets.

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Critical Thinking Skills: 4 Ways to Stand Out in Your Job Search with Bethany Wallace

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Critical Thinking Skills: 4 Ways to Stand Out in Your Job Search by Mark Anthony Dyson

In this episode, Bethany Wallace, my Lensa.com colleague, joins me to discuss her article on the value of displaying critical thinking skills for your job search. You can read the full article here. 

We break down four things critical thinkers do well: 

Critical thinkers typically do the following regularly:

  • Ask important questions clearly
  • Gather relevant source material when conducting research
  • Assess research material, interpreting it effectively using critical reading strategies
  • Reach logical conclusions and test them

More about Bethany:

She is the founder of Bethany Wallace Communications & Consulting, a former adjunct professor, an author, and a freelance writer. She has written for outlets such as Glassdoor, Lensa, College Recruiter, Zip Recruiter, JobScan, FlexJobs, and the New York Daily News.

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About Mark Anthony Dyson

I am the "The Voice of Job Seekers!" I offer compassionate career and job search advice as I hack and re-imagine the job search process. You need to be "the prescription to an employer's job description." You must be solution-oriented and work in positions in companies where you are the remedy. Your job search must be a lifestyle, and your career must be in front of you constantly. You can no longer shed your aspirations at the change seasons. There are strengths you have that need constant use and development. Be sure you sign up to download my E-Book, "421 Modern Job Search Tips 2021!" You can find my career advice and work in media outlets such as Forbes, Inc., Fast Company, Harvard Business Review, Glassdoor, and many other outlets.

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I moderated a panel on Wealth Management for executives by Black Enterprise Magazine in October 2023 in Miami.

I was interviewed on Scripps News show, “The Why!” 4/13/2023

I talked with John Tarnoff and Kerry Hannon of “The Second Act” podcast about job searching after 50 in October 2022.

I was on “The Career Confidante” podcast to talk about “boomerang employees” and “job fishing” in June 2022.

Making Job Search a Lifestyle With “Dr. Dawn Graham on Careers,” SiriusXM Ch. 132, Wharton School of Business May 2021

In May 2020, I talked with LinkedIn’s Senior News Editor Andrew Seaman on “#GetHired” Live.”

Beverly Jones, host of the NPR podcast “Jazzed About Work,” invited me back to talk job scams, job search trends, and AI tools in April 2024

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