This 43 Year Old Job Seeker Fired Her Friends First

Diane is a 43-year-old job seeker and client that I see now and then. Diane in intentional, organized, and a bit of nerd. She is in no rush to find another job, even after leaving her nursing position, as her boss stated that her services were no longer needed. Unlike many who are let go, she was at peace leaving a job she loved.

Diane was not short on support from her best girlfriends, although, it wasn’t the kind she desired. Toby, one her best long-time girlfriends said, “Girl, I would be upset if that were me. I would cry, scream, yell, and be depressed. They were so wrong in firing you girl.” Toby could not comprehend that Diane left amicably.

Diane celebrated her departure, and never mourned the loss of her job. She visited family, served them, loved them, and cared for them. She works out, got in shape, and looks at least ten years younger. She was taking care of herself.

Another best girlfriend Charlie said, “Diane, how can you be so calm when your child is in college, and you don’t have a job? Girl, aren’t you feeling desperate about now? Shouldn’t you be hitting the street? Shouldn’t you receive unemployment by now?” Charlie couldn’t comprehend that Diane is at peace, and has moved on.

Diane had some savings and is quite secure with her situation. She even joked that only her parents and I understood her goals. Everybody else seems more desperate about Diane’s situation than Diane.

Diane and I have very relaxed coaching sessions, even once when she was on vacation in Miami over the phone (by the way, she was on vacation by herself).  Diane determined to step-up her job search– when Diane was ready (she was on vacation by herself).

Sharon was Diane’s lifelong friend, also a nurse was hired and let go by the same doctor a year before Diane left. Sharon said, “Girl, I am suing this man for everything he has! I am going to make him pay! He was wrong! He hurt my career! We should sue him together!” Diane listened to her friend rant about revenge for several days. She called me a couple of days later to request an emergency coaching session over the phone.

Diane: I decided that I need to make three major changes in my life before I start job hunting.

Me: Three? (At that moment, I thought she was going to cancel the rest of her coaching sessions)

Diane: Yes. I am searching for three new friends. I have fired Toby, Charlie, and Sharon. Can I do that?

Diane has since employed new friends, and she has stepped up her job search efforts, as a happier job seeker.

About Mark Anthony Dyson

I am the "The Voice of Job Seekers!" I offer compassionate career and job search advice as I hack and re-imagine the job search process. You need to be "the prescription to an employer's job description." You must be solution-oriented and work in positions in companies where you are the remedy. Your job search must be a lifestyle, and your career must be in front of you constantly. You can no longer shed your aspirations at the change seasons. There are strengths you have that need constant use and development. Be sure you sign up to download my E-Book, "421 Modern Job Search Tips 2021!" You can find my career advice and work in media outlets such as Forbes, Inc., Fast Company, Harvard Business Review, Glassdoor, and many other outlets.

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