When Family Hates The Career Path You Are Passionate About

People blame careers for break up, or distancing them from love ones daily. The reality is that people separate themselves from people, not careers. Your spouse may appear supportive about your career, but they abhor the effect  it has on them.

You can have both a career passion, and a strong marriage. It is family burden to have one or the other. Success is contingent on comprehending the signs, and responding to them positively within the wishes of your love ones. Listening to what family says, and communication forms the willingness to change, or see the writing on the wall:

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  1. Your family hates your long hours and work life more than your job duties. I thought for a while that husbands are solely guilty of this, but over time, both spouses contend for understanding from each other. Listening is the best tool ever to discern what your spouse wants.
  2. Your spouse may hate what your career does to you. Listen for symptoms that your spouse says about you, even as a joke or in passing: cranky, despondent, tired, disengaged, off into his or her own world, and emotional. These are symptoms, not the root of what your spouse is saying.
  3. It is evident that job perks are more attractive that the job. Perks are acceptable when time and salary positively benefit everyone, but when it compromises and separates the family, it is a problem. If you are holding on to a career because of a perk, it’s time to find a new one.
  4. When work is an issue that sacrifices family time. There is a time that work will need to be put to the side. Your bottom line intention is to feed your family. Unfortunately, undisciplined intentions interfere with  family time, and family cohesion.
  5. Neither you or your spouse has discussed the issue. If your spouse is building a separate life without you, it’s a serious problem.  When both spouses are conflict avoiders, the behavior breeds anger. It says something about you, and more often the point of no return. You have to be the one to engage, listen, and change if this is unacceptable to you.
 When Family Hates The Career Path You Are Passionate About

About Mark Anthony Dyson

I am a Career Consultant, Host & Producer of "The Voice of Job Seekers podcast, and Founder of the blog by the same name. I help and inspire unemployed, underemployed, and under-appreciated job seekers by finding and creating a voice to be heard by heard employers. I see too many voice-less resumes, cover letters, LinkedIn profiles, and other attempts people attempt to market themselves. In addition to the awards, my advice has appeared in major career sites such as AOL Jobs, You Tern, CAREEREALISM, Come Recommended, and Brazen Careerist. Your Voice. Your Brand. Your next opportunity is waiting to hear from you.

Comments

  1. You bring up an excellent point. I once had a colleague who worked insane hours and his days off never coincided with his wife’s. As you can imagine, she was not thrilled about this and became very possessive of their spare time together and shot down anything that would take him away form her. It wasn’t that these things were bad, but her relationship with him was a bigger priority. -Sarah

  2. Mark Anthony DysonNo Gravatar says:

    Thanks Sarah for sharing. Career choices should have buy-in and input from your spouse, family, fiance, or whoever is significant in your life. Especially if you expect support from that person. 

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