You may not talk much, but even worse, you may not listen much either.
The problem is that you don’t speak your mind. You won’t listen either. That’s a problem at home and work. So consider this a two for one deal. It won’t take long, I promise.
First, I will say, that my wife and I train our young men to speak their mind. There’s a cost, and I don’t know if you want to pay it. It costs you more time. Less time if you can get them to get to the point quickly. It’s less time later in their teen years when they grow integrity. It won’t come out tactfully, which means more training, and more patience.
There’s no punishment for speaking your mind when everyone expects it. It’s up to you to train everyone around you. You know, to be out spoken. Can you do it with self-control and tact? No? Then you can’t teach someone else to do it. Unfortunately, the time spent to listen more than speak is an impediment for you. It’s a debatable matter for them approaching you.
If you don’t speak up, and don’t speak out, then where does your value go? Whose hero are you? Why are you keeping your super powers to yourself? Shouldn’t your employer know?